Mistakes. Let that word sink in. You've made a mistake somewhere down the road. Maybe it was job related or maybe it was even a mistake in love. I think now a-days, or maybe always, "mistake" is a societal dirty word. For some deluded reason, we expect ourselves to act perfectly on everything we do. Perfect may be too strong of a word because I have a feeling who ever is reading this is thinking to themselves "I don't expect myself to act perfect. Perfect is impossible, duh." But I assure you, if you beat yourself up for a mistake, you had a certain expectation on how that situation would turn out. And your expectation was in all likelihood your ideal or "perfect" outcome.
But the fact of the matter is mistakes are beautiful because without them not only do we learn from them but also we become better people. Yes, we know what to do next time. At first, when you realize you made a mistake you know you cannot fix, the feeling burns in your chest. You become amazed at yourself for doing something so foolish in the moment you think of a million ways you could possibly fix it, even considering the ones were you loose your pride. You become desperate to fix it and it shows. But in all reality, nothing can be done. Once a mistake is committed, its gone and in its full affect. If your angry at yourself, let yourself be angry. If you want to cry, fucking cry. Scream! Yell! Curse! You have to let yourself feel your emotions because if you don't let them out when they first come to being, you'll suppress them and they will fester in your core. Then after, do something you could be proud of. Make something out of your shame. Sit down and write (to yourself or make it intended to be seen.. where did you think this blog was coming from?) Stand up and paint. Go on a run. Let. It. Out. Love yourself. Love that you felt something so horrible and so out of your good hearted character that you could make something so beautiful or beat your best time. It obviously doesn't have to be art or fitness related. Those two things are personal to me. Thats how I let things go and move on from them. Do whatever you have to do.
Mistakes are not the culprit here. The culprit is the suppressed emotions that inevitably make it hard to let it go. You are not always going to feel bad. The feeling will pass. I promise. Nothing is permanent. And that is such a wonderful thing about life. Its a balance. Without the bad, the good just isn't as good. Being sick for a week makes you damn happy and appreciative when you feel healthy again. Its all in how you choose to feel about it after. You can't always help how you feel in the moment. I'm a very logical and a clear thinker when it comes to how I feel in most moments. But sometimes, I can't help myself in that split second not to feel angry, ashamed, jealous, etc. But I can choose how to react once that initial emotion has expressed itself.
I realize that the last paragraph could be related to more than just mistakes. But frankly, most unpleasant feelings comes from someones mistake somewhere. It's okay. It really is. Say sorry to those you need to, including yourself, and hope that recognizing you made a mistake will allow the universe, God, Buddha, Karma, time to fix it. In five years from now, it will only matter because you'll know better. Or maybe (more likely) you completely forgot about it. Accept yourself and your mistakes. You're human, and thats what makes you absolutely wonderful and powerful to choose.
But the fact of the matter is mistakes are beautiful because without them not only do we learn from them but also we become better people. Yes, we know what to do next time. At first, when you realize you made a mistake you know you cannot fix, the feeling burns in your chest. You become amazed at yourself for doing something so foolish in the moment you think of a million ways you could possibly fix it, even considering the ones were you loose your pride. You become desperate to fix it and it shows. But in all reality, nothing can be done. Once a mistake is committed, its gone and in its full affect. If your angry at yourself, let yourself be angry. If you want to cry, fucking cry. Scream! Yell! Curse! You have to let yourself feel your emotions because if you don't let them out when they first come to being, you'll suppress them and they will fester in your core. Then after, do something you could be proud of. Make something out of your shame. Sit down and write (to yourself or make it intended to be seen.. where did you think this blog was coming from?) Stand up and paint. Go on a run. Let. It. Out. Love yourself. Love that you felt something so horrible and so out of your good hearted character that you could make something so beautiful or beat your best time. It obviously doesn't have to be art or fitness related. Those two things are personal to me. Thats how I let things go and move on from them. Do whatever you have to do.
Mistakes are not the culprit here. The culprit is the suppressed emotions that inevitably make it hard to let it go. You are not always going to feel bad. The feeling will pass. I promise. Nothing is permanent. And that is such a wonderful thing about life. Its a balance. Without the bad, the good just isn't as good. Being sick for a week makes you damn happy and appreciative when you feel healthy again. Its all in how you choose to feel about it after. You can't always help how you feel in the moment. I'm a very logical and a clear thinker when it comes to how I feel in most moments. But sometimes, I can't help myself in that split second not to feel angry, ashamed, jealous, etc. But I can choose how to react once that initial emotion has expressed itself.
I realize that the last paragraph could be related to more than just mistakes. But frankly, most unpleasant feelings comes from someones mistake somewhere. It's okay. It really is. Say sorry to those you need to, including yourself, and hope that recognizing you made a mistake will allow the universe, God, Buddha, Karma, time to fix it. In five years from now, it will only matter because you'll know better. Or maybe (more likely) you completely forgot about it. Accept yourself and your mistakes. You're human, and thats what makes you absolutely wonderful and powerful to choose.
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